The matter of handling the seemingly unworkable marital problems cannot be applicable to nonbelievers. The courts of law are equipped with sufficient law provisions, facilitated through divorce proceedings. The poisoned environment continues unabated. Better solutions are found outside the law courts.
The Apostle Paul’s recommendation is that Converts should remain in the state in which they were, at the point of conversion. If engaged in marriage, divorce is not recommended. If not married, the recommendation is to avoid complicating one’s Christian calling when dabbling in marital problems.
Christianity leaves no room for divided attention. One is better off, unmarried than engaging in marriage. The entire chapter of 1 Corinthians 7 clarifies matters, concerning marital disputations. Can a Christian come to a conclusion that one’s marriage would have become unworkable?
Jesus stated that it is impossible to terminate a marriage, except in death. Arguments have been proffered that some marriages cannot be sustainable. Jesus insinuated that under normal circumstances, it is impossible to terminate a marriage. The institution of marriage holds no divorce provision.
Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”
Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” The disciples said to him, “If this is the situation between a husband and wife, it is better not to marry.”
Jesus replied, “Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it” (Matthew 19:3-12 NIV).
The abnormal environment normalizes the abnormal. Divorce cases are classified among abnormal misdemeanours, thereby, intoxicating survival conditions. A husband and wife are one in marriage, making their separation impossible. The thermometry of a good nation is measured by the level of divorce cases in that environment.
The more divorce cases there would be, in an environment, the more toxic the nation would be. Jesus is the standard for healthful living conditions. When desiring to pursue normal lives, Jesus’ words hold workable standards, for healthful living conditions. All other formulae are unworkable.
The sexual appetite was designed for properly constituted marriages. The package of sexual enjoyment includes the responsibility, of embracing the codification of sanctity in marital conditions. The first time a person engages in sex, one would have committed him/herself to marriage.
Such a sexual engagement could be committed by school children, doing so without realizing the responsibility that goes with it. That kind of sexual activity is termed, fornication; carried out by young people out of mischief. Such youths do so, without realizing the responsibility involved.
The law of cause and effect brings consequences, regardless of immaturity and ignorance. Others get caught up in child pregnancy, yet others may not be impregnated. They would have violated their chastity, yet without any marriage to talk about.