Anyone can test his/her art of listening by how tolerant he/she would be, listening to those with different viewpoints. Poor listeners are those who cannot tolerate listening to what they disagree with. However, good listeners are those willing to listen to anything coming from another fellow human being.
The violators of good communication are those prejudging before listening. All wars, or the seemingly unending disputes in this world, are a result of violating this principle. In the entire field of human relations, there is nothing that can be more important than good communication. This requires good listeners.
Suicidal effects and many other psychosomatic illnesses are a result of there being no good listeners. Troubled people need listeners more than those regarding themselves as experts in dealing with their cases. Listening should be purposeful. There is a special way of listening, for effective understanding.
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you” (James 1:19-21 NIV).
As the most important aspect in human relations, listening does not require approval of what has to be communicated. Good listeners are not sensitized or affected by previous experiences. Their listening seeks to consult with the reality of the speaker. A good listener knows that different people experience different conditions and challenges.
Some of the things experienced, in this life, can be difficult to disclose to unwilling listeners. Humans love listening only to what they feel comfortable with. Others prefer hiding or not wanting to be listened to. This is what spells the challenges in the human race.
In this life when desiring to be popular, the easiest thing is to tell lies. Telling the truth is very unpopularity as to, at times, reducing you to a laughing stock. There is no other reason that caused Jesus’ crucifixion, rather than being truthful. Falsehood is what people like to hear, more than telling them the truth.